tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2388411908298247286.post2843110169970164334..comments2023-06-08T03:09:41.811-07:00Comments on One Plus One: Midnight MusingsErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17307826724573377089noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2388411908298247286.post-58381975384317997102011-06-20T09:23:44.405-07:002011-06-20T09:23:44.405-07:00When I became a step-mom to a 3 year old I raged a...When I became a step-mom to a 3 year old I raged against the loss of freedom for ages, to the point where I wasn't as good a parent as I could have been, looking back. It honestly took me close to 3 years to really feel ok with it, and I wasn't a better parent until I had my own child. It didn't help that I had no friends in my life with kids that were the same age and stage as me. I felt isolated and alone and STUCK because you can't just up and leave when a kid is involved. I still have trouble with it sometimes, but she's now 10, and wow... does it ever make a difference in her life that I'm around. I see it everyday, that even though she's not biologically mine, she's totally my daughter. I'm telling you this because I can tell you from experience that getting through the loneliness, and the temper tantrums, and the nights when you lie awake wondering what kind of idiot you are... it's incredibly hard and feels like it doesn't mean anything at the time, but it really does! It means everything to both you and Toby, and you both will come out as better people for it. I look back now and there are things I would change, but giving up that life was 110% worth it for her, and for me, because I'm way more awesome because she was in my life.Kristina Griffithshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04093920692936526009noreply@blogger.com